Sunday, December 21, 2014

A Unicorn or A Popcorn

Am I not well, that my eyes are telling me to always clean up?
Am I not well, that my mind takes me to think a lot?
Am I not well, that my soul worries so much for life?
Am I really not well till you called me sick? 

Am I not well, that swing mood follows me?
Am I not well, that I let my mind fools me?
Am I not well, that I run away to hide myself.
Am I really not well? you said i need a break.

Or.. Am I just a little too well?
I clean up because i am a neat person
My mind helps me to think more about future.
Anxiety helps me stay alert and strong.

Yes, swing mood is something needed to be changed, i'm working on it
Right, my mind needs to be occupied with sweet life motivation so i can rejoice
Communicate is something I am really not good at, someone has to lead me
Ah yes, a break is helpful but most all, good sleep is all i need

And also a softly voice,
A loving hug,
A tender kiss, 
And you, to be right here.

Am i not well or just a little too well, that i agree to exchange a unicorn for you on Christmas? 
Even though you probably exchange me for a Popcorn

The Unicorn, Jakarta 21 Dec 2014 

Cinta, kau di mana?

Cinta, kau di mana?
Sedang menikmati secangkir teh kah, atau  mungkin kopi panas?
Atau jangan-jangan kau diam-diam mencuri setengah cangkir sisa coklat panasku.
Ah Cinta, kau pasti sedang menikmati uap hangat coklat itu di wajahmu, bukan?

Manis, hangat, atau aromanya kah yang kau nikmati?

Manis, rasa itu semanis saat melihatmu tersenyum
Hangat, sehangat tawamu yang renyah
Dan aromanya itu cinta, kuyakin pasti akan selalu kau kenang.

Ah ya, kau boleh menghabiskan sisa coklatku.

Si Perindu, Jakarta Utara 21 Dec 2014

Wednesday, October 15, 2014

Real Differences Between Being In Love And Loving Someone

It took me a very long time to learn the difference between being in love with someone and actually loving that person. I learned the hard way, the very, very hard way. Hearts were broken repeatedly over the years, and although I wish the pain could have been avoided, the experiences taught me more than any book or class ever could.

I grew up on fairy tales and love stories that taught me to believe that being in love and loving are the same thing. That couldn't be any further from the truth. 

Being in love with someone and loving that person are two different things. 
Understanding the difference and being able to apply the knowledge to your own relationships is key to building a lasting relationship.

Here are a few differences between being in love and loving that I wish I knew a decade sooner:

When you’re in love with someone, you want this person.

Being in love is wanting to own a part of the other person. It’s believing this person is so wonderful that you want him or her to be a part of your life, a part of you. When you fall in love with a person, you feel an intense urge to consume that person in any way you can.

Being in love is believing you need someone in order to be happy.

When you love someone, you need this person.

You don’t just want — or rather, don’t only want — you need him or her. You need this person to live a happy and healthy life because your happiness literally depends on it.
You need him or her to be a part of your life in some way or another, not because you want to own a piece of this person, but because you want to give him or her a piece of yourself; loving someone is deeming him or her worthy of owning a part of you.

It isn’t about ownership; it’s about wanting only the best for that individual — something that often means letting that love go.

When you’re in love with someone, your emotions are always on high.

Your brain is producing the most amazing chemical cocktail, making you feel as if you were floating atop of a cloud. You get high just by being in love with a person — and it’s a sort of high you never want to let go of.
No one wants to come down from such a high. This is where the problem lies: You inevitably do come down.

When you love someone, your emotions settle and then fluctuate.

Loving someone isn’t as much about the emotions as it is about the thoughts.
Thinking about someone, wishing the best for that person, doing the best to make him or her happy and, well, caring for that person just as much as — if not more than — yourself, that’s what love is. The emotions that come with it are just the perks.

Once you have passed the stage of simply being in love with someone to actually loving him or her, you have to learn to let go of the constant high and to ride the less frequent waves as they come. They always come. They just aren’t the “in love” emotional state that only falling in love allows for.

When you’re in love with someone, you’re aiming to reach some goal.

That’s what makes falling in love so exciting — the constant yearning for more.
You want to spend more time with this person, get to know him or her better, be with this person as much as possible. You always want to have more, and want to build a greater, more serious relationship.

When you love someone, you aren’t rushing to reach the finish line.

The goal that being in love calls for no longer exists — but only because it’s already been reached. This often scares people because they begin to feel a need to continue making progress.
Unfortunately, everything in the universe is finite. You can’t make progress and continue building something greater forever. The only thing you can eventually do is keep reinforcing what you already have.

Being in love is not only understanding that what you have is all you need, but wanting to strengthen that bond indefinitely.

When you’re in love with someone, you think you care more about that person more than you actually do

Falling in love is much, much easier than loving. When you’re in love, the chemicals in your brain and body make you feel as if the person is the greatest person in the world. You believe this person to be the most amazing specimen you have ever encountered. Sadly, this way of thinking usually wears off as soon as the feel-good chemicals wear off. Then you’re left lost and confused.

When you love someone, you care about that person more than you think.

Being in love is easily recognizable, as it makes you feel a constant yearning, a constant need. Loving, on the other hand, doesn’t give you such constant reminders.

However, life always manages to give us those reminders. Life will often keep people away from us, harm those in our lives and sometimes even take them from us entirely.

When you truly love someone, such moments of separation and loss overwhelm you with emotion. People often forget how much they love a person — or fail to realize how much they love them — until life forces them to remember.

When you’re in love with someone, you can fall out of love with that someone.

What goes up must come down. In the case of falling in love, what comes down often crawls back up. If you can fall in love with a person then you know you can just as easily fall out of love with him or her.

Being in love — and romantic love altogether — is mostly a result of our minds’ creation. We make, or allow, ourselves to fall in love by romanticizing the individual as well as the relationship. When you’re in love, reality doesn’t always line up with your version of it.

When you love someone, you never really stop loving that someone.

Loving a person is something that defines you — it defines the person you are. Those we love, those we care about most, those who mean the most to us, and who have affected us most in our lives, are those who never really leave us.

They may remove themselves, or be removed, from our lives, but they never leave our minds. Their memory, the thought of them, makes us feel strong emotion. Their presence in our lives has had such an incredible influence on us that, because of them, we are different people.

When you love someone, you can’t stop loving that person because it would require you to stop loving a part of you yourself.


You will know whether you're in love or you really love someone only by explaining the feeling you feel about that 'someone'.


Monday, May 5, 2014

Talking to May

Hello May, How are you? Nice to see you again! You always bring the warmest sun every year to warm my world, colorful flowers to paint my world and also good aroma therapy to heal my heart.
Now, i'm so excited to share my story with you again. My happy story, my unique story and my own story about how love can make me grow stronger, better, loving and more hopeful everyday. Love is something never fails. So, May, do you wanna hear what i love about him? Here we go and I hope each of them can bring out the smile to your face and then please whisper them to his ears, so he can see my sincerity clearly.
I love him for his goodness that never fails to put a smile on my face.
I love him for being listener and advice giver or punching bag when i'm frustrated or upset. 
I love him for laid back character that calm my nerve.
I love him for being everything that i am lacking.
I love him for his caring soul. 
I love him for when he holds me, i feel like i'm home.
Real love is something we do. It is not a feeling; it is not primarily (or even secondarily) something we feel. Real love is about being loving much more than being loved. But to be genuinely loving requires a lot of personal growth and inner rewiring on our part. It takes effort—real effort. It’s not easy. If becoming more loving were easy, then everyone would be doing it.
Real Love requires that we confront and deal with and even overcome our own laziness, irrational fears, tendency to get bored easily, tendency to be impulsive and reactive, tendency to think in discursive ways, tendency to not to want to think (thinking criticially and deeply, after all, takes effort.  One of the biggest pains to deal with in life is the pain of a new idea. Thinking widely and honestly and deeply is not something that most of us want to do, let alone embrace).
Well, May, you see? I have grown up! you see how blissful i'm standing here today? love really give strength to everyone. And you always be my best listener ever, i'll talk to you again real soon. 

Jakarta, 5 May 2014

Monday, April 21, 2014

Tentang April

Aku selalu mencintai April, tak peduli apa yang ditawarkan olehnya. Aneh memang, sebab April tidak selalu baik. Entah hujan gerimis yang bisa saja turun tanpa memberi kabar membasahi sepatuku atau pun hujan petir yang bisa menggelegar secara tiba-tiba mendekati jendela kamarku, atau malah kadang teriknya sinar matahari April begitu menyakitkan mata. Tapi kau tau, selalu ada yang menyenangkan dalam hembusan angin di bulan April. Benar apa kata orang, saat kau belajar mencintai, maka apapun alasannya kau akan tetap tinggal untuk menikmatinya. Walaupun disaat rasa sudah berbentuk remah-remah saja, kau masih ingin tetap tinggal dan berada di sana untuk menyicipinya. Jadi, apa yang akan kau tawarkan padaku hari ini, hei April ?

Jkt, 210414

A Cup of Coffee

"Can i ask you a favor?"
"What is that?"
"Make me a cup of coffee before you go."
"Right now? Why you need it so bad?"
"Because it'll make me easier to remember about you, sweet but there's a little bit of bitterness at the end. But, the aroma is always comforting."

Jkt, 210414

Monday, March 17, 2014


They say, there's nothing show up suddenly in this life.
Everything that comes into our life, is invited by our dreams. 
I agree with that phrase it seems that nature understand us pretty well.
But sometimes we should realize that not every dream is beautiful.
Because of some nightmares, we will be awakened thankful for our life.

March 2014 - Syu